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Be Who You Are

Be Who You Are

 

What will people say? This question has hindered happiness for most of us. Everyone is cautious about how they behave for fear of being criticised. In this fast-paced environment, everything can be seen in different social media platforms, where bullying, mocking, and bashing are rampant; we pretend to be someone acceptable in the society and online world. Even in the community where we live, they expected us to behave according to their standards, and if we fail, we say hello to criticisms. Having through this kind of experience, we aim to be perfect in the sight of others. What if we still receive negative feedback no matter how hard we try to be the best person? Eventually, it will lead to unhappiness.

We were born differently from another. We can’t impose what is best for us to someone who has a different type of personality. In the same manner, the standard of others might be dissimilar to us. It is the reason why every human being is unique. We have different attitudes, behaviours, likes, and dislikes. The environment can influence as to who we are as a person. It has a greater impact on how we behave and act. But it doesn’t mean that we should lose our true self along the way. We should always remember our authenticity. It is the only way to prevent depression when criticised.

We can make mistakes. We falter. And sometimes, we choose the wrong decisions in life. Along with these, we can hear opinions and comments that make us feel inadequate without them knowing how we think and what we want. Those opinionated persons do the same as well but differently. Don’t feel bad about yourself. Be who you are. Be the person who you want to be. Do what your heart desires as long as it is not bad. And you will be happy, satisfied, and at peace.

Life Is Not Easy, But God Is Good

Life Is Not Easy, But God Is Good

 

The sun is shining so bright, but it seems gloomy. I can feel the heat of the sun in my skin; still,  I’m feeling cold. My eyes are cloudy. My dam of tears is ready to overflow. I close my eyes to hinder it from flowing.  And when I open it, if my looks are pointed, I can make a hole in the wall.

I am thinking about how I always go back to the same situation over and over again. I’m so foolish for still trusting and believing.
I feel like my life sucks, breaking up with my boyfriend and family responsibility; it seems like I carry the whole world in my back. As an introvert, I am hesitant to open up with my friends. It’s tough to speak up what is behind on my mind. I’m alone. I end up faking a smile and laugh even if I’m drowning inside.

And when I can’t hold my emotions anymore, I let my tears flow and cry in silence. I accept defeat that everything is not in my control. When it seems so heavy to carry, I want to disappear and escape from this shallow. But when I think about it, it makes me cry more because it will make my life worse.

When I feel so helpless and hopeless, I seek God. I surrender everything to Him and cry in His presence. I hold on to Him. And when I can feel His embrace, it makes me relax.

We need to focus our sight on Jesus, and we never get lost. Days might be gloomy, but with God, it is always sunny despite our tribulations. In times of our adversities, we only need Jesus. Nothing more, nothing less.

When I Meet A Godly Atheist

When I Meet A Godly Atheist

 

Call it, showy! Call it, bragging! But I call it blessed for meeting someone who changes your perspective into a clearer vision.

I meet someone who always says I don’t believe in God because I am God. But will also say, “Will you go to the Church on Sunday, pray for him.”

I found it surprising how someone does the opposite of what he says. It melts my heart with bliss.

And what amazes me is that circumstance would make him like a raging lion ready to attack its enemy, which almost crashed and abused his well-being, yet he manages to calm himself for he knows that revenge can affect others who are not involved and innocent. And he speaks with wisdom.

I thought my purpose of knowing him is to bring to God and change him, yet he changed my point of view. God already resides in his heart. And it caught me off guard when I know that he wins a soul by example.

We never can tell what a person is through the surface unless we sit, talk, and have a deep conversation.

Indeed, we always meet someone for a reason.

Joy In Sacrifice

Joy In Sacrifice

 

The way I handle the relationship is somewhat selfish. I always wanted my boyfriend to give me time every day whatever the situation would be. I got upset whenever he seemed busy. But someone taught me to change it little by little. He taught me how to be understanding and how to be matured in handling a relationship.

I learn that it is not always “me” but “him” or “us.” A little sacrifice won’t hurt compared to a wound that might appear if I insist on my childish ways. I also learn to be empathetic during his bad state to have a smooth sailing relationship. Understanding is the key; without it,  you can’t call a relationship a strong one, and having it makes the foundation solid giving joy both hearts.

Always Believe In Love

Always Believe In Love

 

Love has many definitions. One definition that can be found in the dictionary states that love is an intense feeling of deep affection. According to Paolo Coelho, “Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings with.” And according to St. Paul as stated in the Bible in 1 Cor. 13:4-8a, “Love -is patient and kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends”. Everybody has their definition of love depending on how it affects one’s life.

No human being doesn’t know how to love. Most of the times, love has more significant effects on a person. It is either to inspire or to destruct depending on how a person is responding as to how he or she experienced it.

When love strikes, everything that surrounds us brightens. It seems like we are always energetic, always wearing a smile, and feels like in a cloud nine. Love is the reason why we are in zeal. At the same time, it is also the reason why we feel hapless. When we love the wrong person, getting hurt is inevitable. The wrong person will eventually cheat or does something that will ruin the relationship you have because you are destined for someone else. To some, being broken-hearted feels like they are dying and cannot get up from the shallow of brokenness; and allow themselves to be depressed. It is a normal reaction because having a broken heart is difficult to overcome, and surpassing the pain isn’t easy.

Love can break our hearts. But love can also be the reason for our hearts to be whole again from being broken. Just be an optimist in love. Even if our hearts are shattered to a million pieces, always have a hopeful heart. For true love will come at God’s perfect time. Never cease praying. No matter how long it will be granted, always keep in mind that it will come eventually. Pray for it, when it happens, it will be worth the wait.

Just like a wave, we felt like being tossed to various heartbreaks before we end up to the right one. We will encounter first many heartaches, shed a dam of tears, and having a lot of sleepless nights before our happily ever after arrives. Just learn to be hopeful and wait patiently. And be surprised! Pure and genuine love comes when you least expect it. Always believe in love and love will come to you.

Be Confident and Positive

Be Confident And Positive

 

The months of pains, sorrows, and regrets had been passed. I can now smile and laugh heartily at how foolish I was before. And even question myself, how did I fall for an unworthy person. I realise that it happened for a reason. And only God knows exactly what is the reason all about. I haven’t left God or go away from Him during my hard times. I prayed fervently to help me not to hate people despite what they had done to me. God amazes me with His love and goodness every day. And I also realise that most of the time, my plan is not His plans. ISAIAH 55:8-9 says “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts”. I was planning to do this one, but He gives me a different one. And the one He gives me makes my heart melts and happy. And those steps that I had to make my plans into reality lead me into something that maybe God has planned for me. I didn’t realise it until I look at it back, smiling. I will allow God to do the plan for me and wait for it patiently because His plans for me will not harm me. JEREMIAH 29:11 says, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. Even if my heart was broken many times, I have to gamble and trust again, because how will I know if he is the right one for me if I don’t give “us” a chance to know each other more. Be confident and positive, and the right one will be trapped. An only genuine or real person with a good heart can find a woman beautiful inside and out. We won’t know what a beautiful and happy life is unless we experienced difficult circumstances. And sometimes, our failures made us doubt ourselves and lower our self-esteem. But life is not all the time sad; we were just with the wrong one. Trust in God’s plan and perfect timing. Think confidently and positively. I am thankful to God for allowing me to experience His love and goodness in different circumstances. And I am grateful to my handsome big baby for radiating sunshine that helps me realise my worth as a woman.